How to Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns
...so you can be a calmer, more confident parent RIGHT NOW!
Thursday, Feb 4 @ 8:00 PM EST Live on Zoom
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With Results Like These:
“ I honestly have not had to “manage” any behaviors this week!”
"[this workshop] made me feel less like a failure when I didn’t immediately become Super Mom overnight."
It's No Wonder The Family Life Coach Clients Are RAVING About Our Unique Approach to Parenting Consciously!
From: the desk of Katherine Endy, The Family Life Coach
Managing Tantrums Kinda Sucks. Especially if you don't know what to do, right?! And if you’re like most of the parents I work with, you got into this whole parenting thing because you want to have a strong, loving connection with your child
...not spend all day dealing with defiance and tantrums!
Well, the reality is this:
Whether you’re parenting a toddler, a preschooler, or a whole house full of growing people of all ages,
Children do NOT manage their behavior Themselves!
Think about it! You don't expect your 3-year-old to calmly and articulately tell you what they want when they're just chillin' in the playroom. NO! Of course not!
So why would you expect them to be able to do it when they're upset?
You’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of defiance, sassiness, and “attitude” from your child
I mean... has it worked so far? If you’re like most who come to start working with me, it’s very likely a “no.”
But this is all ok! Because when you’re resorting to bribery, punishment, and time-outs, sometimes it’s as simple as shifting your perspective on your child’s behavior!
And you will start shifting your perspective when you learn WHY TANTRUMS and MELTDOWNS happen and what to do about them (even how to avoid them!)...
The #1 Mistake Stressed Out Parents Keep Making:
When parents are stressed and overwhelmed, they double-down on the punishment because they don’t know what else to do. They feel helpless. And if you’re doing this, you risk raising a child who will hide their behavior instead of coming to you for help because they fear the consequences of being honest.
And you already know that punishment really does NOT work. (If it did, you’d only have to use it once and you’d never see that “bad behavior” again!)
Or worse! Mistake #2...
When punishment doesn’t work (it doesn’t!), they go and ramp up the rewards (ahem, bribes!)
That’s like trying to fill a leaky bucket with more water!
And if you're doing this, you risk raising a child who is dependent on rewards and praise in order to feel good about themselves and who lack the internal motivation.
But when you LEARN and MASTER the skills of how to manage defiance, tantrums and meltdowns by focusing on CONNECTION and EMOTIONS, you model emotion regulation and conflict resolution for your child.
BUT I GET IT!
Parenting is hard enough, you’re probably thinking...
You offered a little extra screentime or some fruit snacks to grease the skids a little.
Heck! Your kid’s probably munching on fruit snacks in front of the tablet right now!
So, does someone really NEED to parent with connection instead of coercion? NO!
Well... you’re right! MOST parents never take time to learn more about how to be a better parent by regulating their own emotions.
But has there ever been a time where YOU offered your kid a treat to get them to do what you wanted them to do?
Of course! Chances are, you have done this at least once this week, right?
Heck! Your kid’s probably munching on fruit snacks in front of the tablet right now!
So, does someone really NEED to parent with connection instead of coercion? NO!
So what’s more important?
...that you create a lasting, trusting relationship with your child...
OR that you shut down the behaviors you don’t like RIGHT NOW because it’s more convenient to have a cooperative kid than a kid with big, messy feelings?
You want MORE connection with your child, not less, right?
The reality is, you have to manage your own emotions before you can help your child with theirs.
So, now that you see just how vital it is to manage defiance, tantrums, and meltdowns in a calm, connected way that focuses on your RELATIONSHIP with your child, you may begin to feel the slightly daunting and intimidating task of actually how to go about it, where to begin...
5 Research-Backed Facts About Tantrums & Meltdowns:
➜ Young children have a tantrum an average of once a day (Sisterhern & Wy, 2020)
➜ Kids “misbehave” when they are stressed (they are not doing it on purpose to piss you off) (Thompson, 2019)
➜ Kids don’t have access to the part of their brain that helps them calm down – they need your help! (Bailey, 2021)
➜ Parenting stress actually ADDS TO negative behaviors in children (Chan & Neece, 2018)
➜ The way you think about your child’s behavior has an effect on their behavior, including levels of aggression (Borelli et al., 2020)
Do You Currently Suffer From ‘Frustrated Parent Syndrome?’
If you’re like most who have read this far, you’re starting to see the possibility of a lasting, trusting relationship with your child built on the way you parent them RIGHT NOW, while they’re little... but you probably imagine yourself getting frustrated the next time a tantrum erupts, asking yourself,
“How the heck am I supposed to get my kid to calm the F*@& down?!”
What do I even say? How do I even say it? And how do I make sure I say it in a way that won’t damage my relationship with my child in the long-run?! I know they need my help when they’re melting down, but I’m SO DANG TRIGGERED by their screaming and crying, I can’t even calm myself down!
It can be so daunting and intimidating that you avoid even trying to do it a better way. And I get it.
But here's a little parenting 'Insider Secret' for ya (from someone who’s been parenting for 15 years):
It’s not about your child’s behavior...
IT’S ABOUT YOU
...and YOUR behavior!
No more overwhelm!
No more wondering if you’re screwing up your kid for life!
No more wasting time or money!
Imagine for just a moment......
that you could manage any child behavior situation without yelling or blowing your top
...imagine you could create calm and peace in your home...
...You would have the strategies for conscious, mindful parenting MASTERED in just a few days from RIGHT NOW!
And you already know once you have strategies for managing your own emotions and behavior so that you can be present for your child ... it’s done! You’ll have those tools for life! In fact, I (and my students) use these exact same strategies parenting our own kids! Isn’t it great to have the tools you need to be the parent you want to be RIGHT NOW?!
Wouldn’t that be nice?
Well, you don’t have to “imagine” any longer. Because... it’s here.
In this workshop you’ll get:
- a 90-minute LIVE session with Katherine Endy, the Family Life Coach!
- tangible tools for managing difficult behaviorso that you can start being calmer and more connected RIGHT NOW!
- 1 bonus Tantrums & Meltdowns cheat sheet so you understand some of the “why” and the science behind these behaviors
- Tons of support so you don’t have to do this alone
It’s time to give your kids (and your whole family!) the calm and confident version of you they deserve!
Just like it’s done for my previous clients and students.
"It has great strategies to help to your toddler but also a lot of important tips and reminders for us as parents that our behavior really effects our little ones."
Liz, mom of a toddler
“Katherine’s mini course was an excellent jump start to regaining some sense of control when it comes to parenting. Katherine’s videos don’t feel like a lecture from a professional (although she is certainly professionally qualified) but like a friend giving you advice on the things that have worked for them. (Only her advice is backed up by both her parenting experience and her academic experience) The suggestions felt easy and doable and her acknowledgement that not everything will work for every parent/child and would take time and effort, made me feel less like a failure when I didn’t immediately become Super Mom overnight.”
Alli, mom of 3 kids under 5
What people are saying about working with Katherine, The Family Life Coach
Sienna took Katherine's workshop and was so committed that she immediately signed up to do 1:1 coaching alongside her husband, Chris. They made incredible strides and are a happier, more harmonious family because Sienna took this first step.
Become a calmer, more confident parent.
“This is Great, Katherine!
...But What IF I don’t have time for a parenting workshop?!”
This is about the time where you might be saying, “Yeah, Katherine, but I don’t have time to take a workshop. Shouldn’t I be focusing on my kids?" NO.
Most frustrated, stressed-out parents waste months - sometimes years! - trying to be the perfect parent by ignoring their own needs and emotions and relying on "quick fixes" to manage their kid's behavior because they are too exhausted and stressed to try something new. Sound familiar?
...but then your kid gets the worst version of you!
Every successful parent I’ve known always starts by putting their own oxygen mask on FIRST. If not, it’s an uphill battle trying to manage your kid’s behavior before you’ve learned to manage your own emotional state first.
Why Focusing on Your Kids Behavior BEFORE You Manage Your Own Behavior First is BACKWARDS!
"Wait, Katherine! are you saying this training doesn't just help me Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns...
...it helps me manage MYSELF, too?!"
Yes. That's EXACTLY what I'm saying. 😎
And Check out These Transformations!
Here’s what Brittany had to say about a workshop Katherine taught for her mom’s group.
Inside my 1:1 Parent Coaching Programs, clients pay me $2,000 to support them in their parenting. Some of them have taken workshops like this one and they all agreed: these Workshops Are Transformational! And here’s the best part, you don’t have to pay $2,000 to get what they got!
When You Enroll in How to Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns, You’re Getting The Culmination of 15 Years of Parenting Experience With +4.5 years of PhD-level Education and Research AND over 10 Years of Clinical Social Work Experience!
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How to Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns
...so you can be a calmer, more confident parent RIGHT NOW!
Today!
$97
Just $27!
This workshop will be taught LIVE on zoom
Thursday, February 4 at 8-9:30pm EST
Laura went from yelling at her daughter and then giving in to her to feeling like she had options!
Imagine how it would feel ….
So that you can...
✅ feel calmer and more confident about parenting
✅ know what to say when your child is giving you a hard time
✅ spend more time enjoying parenting, rather than worrying
✅ lower stress
✅ communicate with your child in a way that's actually effective, instead of yelling and saying things you later regret
✅ learn to navigate the emotional ups and downs of parenthood
✅ stop feeling so guilty all the time
✅ set boundaries effectively (and with love)
✅ bring more ease and joy into family life
Ok, let's recap!
⭐ a 90-minute LIVE session with Katherine Endy, the Family Life Coach!
⭐tangible tools for managing difficult behavior - that you can start using RIGHT AWAY
⭐1 bonus Tantrums & Meltdowns cheat sheet
⭐unlimted access to the replay
⭐tons of support!
$97
Just $27
( 👆 👆 👆That's less than a new pair of Stride Rite's for the kid! 👟👟)
ENROLL IN
How to Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns
...so you can be a calmer, more confident parent RIGHT NOW!
Today!
$97
Just $27!
This workshop will be taught LIVE on zoom
Thursday, February 4 at 8-9:30pm EST
I think I covered it all, but in case there’s anything I missed, here are some commonly asked questions
How much does it cost?
What if I want 1:1 support, too?
I can't make it live. Will there be a recording?
What if I have more questions?
ENROLL IN
How to Manage Defiance, Tantrums & Meltdowns
...so you can be a calmer, more confident parent RIGHT NOW!
Today!
$97
Just $27!
This workshop will be taught LIVE on zoom
Thursday, February 4 at 8-9:30pm EST
Meet Katherine, The Family Life Coach
I’m a social worker, parenting educator, and coach, and a PhD candidate at the University of Maryland School of Social Work. My research focuses on parenting stress, mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotion regulation in parents of young children.
But, more importantly, I am a mom of 3 and I know the challenges of trying to remain calm in the fact of tantrums, meltdowns, and daily life as a parent. If you'd told me 10 years ago that I would not only BE a mindful parent, but would be researching and teaching mindful parenting, I would never have believed you. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and - yep! - I yelled at my kids a lot.
Although I’ve had many years of therapy, parenting classes, and hours and hours of meditation, it’s the simple day-to-day practices I teach in this program that helped me be the calm, confident, emotionally regulated parent that I am today. Don’t get me wrong - I still have my moments and no parent is perfect, but I now have the tools to get back to emotional balance when I start to lose my sh*t!
I am so excited to share with you what I have learned as a researcher and as a parent!
